You don’t believe it when you’re told that your life can change in an instant—and then it does. This is my story, or what I can remember of it. On April 12th, 2022, I was raped at gunpoint, at home. In less than 10 minutes, I became another statistic, but a statistic that survived... It’s 6:15 AM, and I’m about to leave to check on a pet sitting client’s cat, then go to work—not an unusual routine for me. It was a way to bring in extra income, and an easy one at that. I’ve always loved animals, and if you love what you do you’ll never work a day in your life. Apparently, my routine was known to more than just me and my animals. As I opened the door to leave, a man was on my porch, and he asked for William. Not knowing how this particular conversation would shape my future, I told him that William didn’t live here and closed the door–it wasn’t uncommon for strangers to come to the door. Before me, an elderly lady had lived here with her son, you see, and people came looking for them all the time, so I thought nothing of it. Figured he’d be gone by the time I opened the door again. I was wrong, and I’ve hated myself for opening that door the second time. I’ve never been face to face with death before that day, never faced an evil so potent that you could taste it in the air...but I can say with certainty I have now. I was pushed backward–not with a physical touch, but with the threat that now loomed in front of me. He checked the bedroom on his left, which adjoined the entrance of the house, looking for other inhabitants–there were none. I lived alone, aside from my animals, which didn’t phase him. Looking back, this tells me he had been watching me for some time, waiting. He pushed me back even further, to the kitchen. He “requested” my phone, and told me to unlock it–I didn’t have much choice, so I agreed. In an effort to get the upper hand, I desperately asked him if I could check on my fosters, since they were in the adjoining room–surprised, he agreed. He checked the room (again for other inhabitants), and while he was looking through my phone, I pressed a panic button that was on the wall he couldn’t see, underneath a lightswitch...1...2...3...and I let go. Praying to some deity that help would get there in time... It’s at this point he sat down at the kitchen table and tried to get me to join him...being a loud-mouthed woman, I started loudly asking him “WHY? I’m a good person! Why would you do this to me?!” Slow motion...he gets up from the table...tells me to face the wall... “Is this happening? Maybe he’ll just leave” I foolishly thought...he lifted my dress, and I spun around to stop him, not wanting what was about to happen. “Put him off just a few minutes more, help is coming, you can do this.” But I couldn’t. He backed me across the kitchen, against the counter...and I struggled. Of course I did. My parents raised a fighter, and I didn’t want to go down without a fight... But he was bigger, stronger, and he had a gun. I’ve never known fear, true fear, until I tasted steel, or whatever guns are even made of. All I know now is that pure fear must have a metallic taste. “Shut up, bitch, ya understand?” and all I could do was nod. I don’t put much stock in religion, not really, and if there is a god up there, I wonder how he could make it so easy to violate a person. Why there aren’t any safeguards to stop it—it’s not really a gate we have much control over. What kind of god could make us such easy targets? You can believe what you want to, and I may get some flack for this, and that’s okay. I’m allowed my thoughts, as is everyone else to theirs. My body had no control over who was inside of it. I had no control. While he pleasured himself, I had to sit there and take it, or die, and even then it was a slim chance I would come out of this alive. I knew my chances, and the possibility of him letting me see his face and me somehow surviving weren’t great. I knew that, even then. Then the doorbell rang. This pervert, this waste of space, leapt up and looked around the corner, to see who might be looking in the living room window and when he saw who it was...said “Get up, bitch,” pulled up his pants, grabbed his gun, and bolted out the back door. In shock, I did as I was told, and just stood there while he ran—but when my brain comprehended that the threat was gone, my body propelled itself towards the front door and ran outside—I didn’t appreciate just how beautiful it was. But there was no time to bask in safety–the threat wasn’t far away. I screamed to the cops to get him, that he ran out the back...they asked who. The guy who raped me. On April 12th, 2022, at around 6:30 AM, I became a statistic. Not long after, it felt like the whole {~city~} police were on scene–and I think they were. For an hour, I am not permitted to change my clothes. I can still smell him. I can still feel him. As I lay in the emergency room, I looked through my phone and discovered all of my security footage...gone. Just gone. Luckily for me, and unluckily for him, I paid a monthly subscription for cloud service. As I’m being violated, once again, I captured his face. You can’t hide from me, not for long. As my mom sits next to me, I send his face to the detective. I joke with the doctor, with the nurses, coping the only way I can, and the way I’ve seen my dad do in the past—build connections, and use them as a way back to shore. Keep yourself afloat, just a while longer. One second, one minute, one hour, one day–as long as you can. Afterwards, to the police station for my statement. No one is allowed to go back with me. Later that night, I get a call to come in to look at a lineup. Even just less than a day later, my brain is trying to protect me–block out his face, by any means possible. Blur it beyond recognition. But I have his face. My brain can’t fight me on this. On the way to the station, my parents in tow, I study it. Imagine it with different facial hair, different hairstyles. I still wasn’t ready. Again, no one was allowed to go back with me. When his photo came up, I didn’t know it was him. I wasn’t certain. But I did have what they call a “visceral reaction.” My hands shook, my voice trembled, and I felt so cold I couldn’t stop shivering. Something inside me knew. I struggled with that guilt for weeks after—what if I’d put the wrong person away? What if I was wrong? Then the message came from the detective, regarding my rape kit. “It was a match.” Thank you. Thank you so much. I was right. Dammit, I was right. On April 12th, 2022, at approximately 6:30 AM, I became a statistic. But a statistic that survived. A statistic that fought back, and a statistic that hasn’t given up, not yet. Not ever. I’m not ashamed. I am a part of a family larger than it should be, of survivors just like me. We are survivors. Lessons to take from this: Check outside before opening your door Invest in a security system Invest in a panic button Practice how you will stay alive long enough to come out the other side of a situation—rehearse every scenario you possibly can Keep your wits about you—you never know when they could save your life Nothing is a 100% failsafe–but even the smallest thing could keep you alive to see another day.